We have many friends in our life; some are hi-bye friends, buddies, best friends, we even have 1st, 2nd, 3rd degree friends in social network sites like facebook, Myspace etc., but have you ever heard about vital friends? Not before I read the Book VITAL FRIENDS: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without, by Tom Rath,
Vital friends are meaningful people in our lives that drive us to achievement. The connection between vital friends and you can often lead you to success.
When I ask people around what the expect from a friend, they often answers are inspiring us, being a companion to us, giving us support, and a dozen other different things. This often expectation is unrealistic, no one friend can meet all our relationship needs.
We need different kind of friends because different people will speak different things into your life, and we need to diversify our friends to have a well-balanced social life.
Let me share with you the top eight roles for vital friends.
BUILDER
Builders are friends who motivate you, invest in your development, and truly want you to succeed — even if it means they’ll go out on a limb for you. These friends help you see your strengths and advise you on how best to use them. They are generous with their time and encourage you to accomplish more. They’ll never compete with you and will always be standing at the finish line to cheer you on.
CHAMPION
Champions stand up for you and your beliefs and they praise you to everyone else they know. They are the friends who “have your back” and will advocate for you when you’re not around to defend yourself. Champions are your strongest supporters who thrive on your accomplishments and happiness.
COLLABORATOR
Collaborators are friends with similar interests, those who share your passion for sports, hobbies, religion, work, politics, food, movies, music, or books. Shared interests are what often make Collaborators lifelong friends and those with whom you are most likely to spend your time.
COMPANION
Companions are always there for you, whatever the circumstances. You share a bound that is virtually unbreakable and when something big happens in your life, good or bad, this is the person you call first. These friends are always giving you meaningful gifts and they will sacrifice for your benefit.
CONNECTOR
Connectors are the bridge builders who help you get what you want. These friends get to know you and then instantly work to connect you with others who will share your interests or goals. They extend your network dramatically and give you access to new resources. If you need a job, a doctor, a friend, or a date, call a Connector.
ENERGIZER
Energizers are fun friends who are always there to boost your spirits and create more positive moments in your life. They pick you up when you’re down and can turn a good day into an even better one. Energizers are those to call on when you need a laugh, a smile, or a bit of relaxation in your day.
MIND OPENER
Mind Openers are the friends who stretch your viewpoint, introduce you to new ideas, opportunities, cultures, and people. They help you to expand your vision and create positive change in your life. These are the friends who challenge conventional wisdom and come up with creative solutions to whatever problems or obstacles you face. They are stimulating and motivating and allow you to express opinions that you might be uncomfortable articulating to others.
NAVIGATOR
Navigators are friends who give advice and direction. You seek them out when you need guidance and counsel — they’re great at talking through your options. Navigators are best at hearing your dreams and goals and then helping you find the path to achieve them.
Source from Vital Friends
Do you have balance mixture of friends that fit the above role? Having the right expectation of your friends is everything, if your expectations of a friend are in line with what they contribute to your friendship, the relationship can make both of you better off in the process.